Posts by Scarred for life

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Hubby is doing research on D'fing to present to the CO

by cognac in

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he thinks the light needs to get brighter on this so we are going to put a report together to give to the co. it's really bothering him because his dad was d'ffed for over 15 years - he has schizophrenia and even a co said he didn't think he should have ever been d'ffed to begin with.

he went to texas to save a woman from cockroaches - clearly this was because of his mental state.

he got f'ffed for that because they said he cheated on his wife and even if he didn't he had no business putting himself in that position.

Scarred for life

It sounds like he wants to be disfellowshipped. Good luck to you both. I hope it turns out in the best way for both of you to go on with your lives.

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Do Jehovah witnesses exploit the most vulnerable in society?

by Blind_Of_Lies in

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during my final few years being active with the jws i noticed that the vast majority of people who were studying or joining the group in general where those that the rest of society would consider disabled and/or severely mentally ill. now by disabled i dont mean i lost my leg in nam kind of disabled... in some cases these people were mentally retarded, had the minds of children, were severely abused as children or even as adults and as a result had personality disorders that put them on the edge of society.... and then we had the full on crazies... about 15 years ago one of the brothers who worked at the local welfare office somehow started a study with a person who was a paranoid schizophrenic.

he met her because she was a client of the welfare office.

she got handed off to a sister who studied with her, then started driving her to her doctors appointments, and to get grocerys, and took her to congregation events.

Scarred for life

My mother's whole family became involved with the JWs in 1952. My mother's brother had been killed in WWII in 1945. Then my mother's father and breadwinner for the family began having worsening mental illness evenutally becoming psychotic, paranoid and a threat to all around him. He had to be sent to the state mental hospital in 1948. All this resulted in the family being financially devastated with no way to make a living for my grandmother and her girls that were still living at home. My mother's brother who should have "taken over" the farm and try to earn a living for the family got married had 3 children very quickly but he went right on drinking and carousing and womanizing until his wife left never to be seen again. This added 3 babies for my grandmother to care for. I actually could go on................. But obviousl. they were ripe for picking by the JWs. It's not anything new that they attract the vulnerable and the damaged.

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does the gb really believe or is this a game ?

by mP in

im assuming we all realise the gb may be many things but the individuals are not fools.

given the changes in ideas, formulation of new light and so on, do they buy the fascade they are presenting ?

if theres anyone in there, surely they as men, know how very man made it has always been.

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Very interesting discussion. Thanks to all that have posted.

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Can't believe people who were JWs with me as children are still in the religon.

by myusername in

so through the internet it's possible to see what people are doing from childhood without actually interacting.

i really imagined the majority people i knew who were born into the religon about the same time i was would have left when they matured and hopefully developed some logic???.

so do they really believe everything they were taught as children or are they just stuck and don't know how to leave?

Scarred for life

Yeah, I agree with you. Being raised as a JW is not kind in any way.

I don't even know if anybody I knew as a child are still JWs. I do know some of my cousins still are.

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If You Never Were A Witness Do You Think You Would've Had A Vastly Different Life?

by minimus in

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would you have gone to college?.

would you have gone to jail?.

would you have been wealthy?.

Scarred for life

Yes, I think my life would have been very different. It's hard to say exactly how because I was raised from birth and my mother's family were all JWs. But I believe my immedidate family would have been closer and had more trust of each other.

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Was Your Life As A Jehovah's Witness HORRIBLE???

by minimus in

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i can't say my life was ruined because i was a witness.

still, i wish that my upbringing was different.

there's a lot i don't like at all about the witnesses but by the same token, there are some very good people who happen to be jws.. i'm sure some of you hated your life as a witness and i'm sure you have valid reasons..

Scarred for life

YES! My life as a JW was horrible. It ruined my childhood, my adolescence, and my family.

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Embarrassed As A Witness

by EmptyInside in

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even as a witness,i was uncomfortable talking about everything we believed.

i remember working with my brother out and service and he found an interested person.

my brother was sharing information out of the bible teach book.

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I think I don't want people asking me what it was like. I don't want to feel like a freak.

Thanks. I do like coming here. I'm not here every day. But I have been coming here off and on for over 3 years. I find people that understand here.

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How did you do it?

by GeneM in

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Yes, I have had relatives to use the depression card to fade or even just to avoid going to meetings or out in field service even though they still call themselves JWs.

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Sitting Still at Meetings has Become an Impossibility

by venusinfauxfurs in

since i know the truth about jw, and still have to go to meetings for family reasons (and because i don't want to leave my friends, either) i get so sick in my chair in the hall.

i can't pay attention, i can't sit still knowing it's all such a waste of time and a big fat lie.

i get weird symptoms like: the feeling that i'm going to almost pass out, very sweaty or very cold, and weak legs though i'm sitting down, and the urge to get up and run away.